Are Your Working Habits Still Helping You? It’s Time to Change!

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There comes a moment—quiet or loud, sudden or slow—when you realise that something in your life is no longer working.

This is not because you’ve failed – it’s because you’ve grown.

Change doesn’t usually announce itself with clarity. More often, it shows up as restlessness. Frustration. A sense that you’re repeating patterns that once served you well, but now feel heavy, limiting, or misaligned with where you want to go.

Growth asks a different question than comfort ever did.

It asks: Who do I need to become next?

Letting Go of What No Longer Fits

We often hold onto habits long past their expiration date.

Habits that once helped us survive a season. Habits that kept us safe, productive, or accepted. Habits that worked—until they didn’t.

The challenge is that habits are loyal. They stay with us even when the environment changes. Even when the goals change. Even when we change.

As James Clear writes in Atomic Habits, habits are not just actions; they are identities. We don’t simply do things—we reinforce who we believe we are. And that’s why letting go can feel uncomfortable. We’re not just changing behaviour; we’re releasing a version of ourselves.

Growth requires honesty.

It requires asking:

• What am I doing out of routine rather than intention?

• Which habits drain energy instead of creating momentum?

• Where am I choosing familiarity over progress?

Letting go is about alignment.

Change Is Not About Doing More

One of the biggest myths about personal growth is that it requires piling on more habits, more goals, more effort.

In reality, meaningful change often begins with subtraction.

Charles Duhigg, in The Power of Habit, reminds us that habits are loops: cue, routine, reward. If the reward no longer matters, the habit loses its purpose. Many of us are still running loops that no longer lead anywhere we actually want to go.

Growth, then, becomes a process of editing.

Not everything needs to come with you into the next chapter.

Choosing Habits That Support the Future You

Once you release what’s no longer working, you create space - and that is powerful.

This is where intention matters.

Instead of asking, What should I be doing? Try asking, What kind of person do I want to be?

Carol Dweck’s work on mindset highlights this beautifully. A growth mindset isn’t about constant achievement; it’s about believing you can evolve. The habits you choose should reinforce that belief—not undermine it.

New habits don’t need to be dramatic. In fact, they work best when they’re small, repeatable, and realistic.

Habits that:

• Support your energy, not just your output

• Create consistency, not pressure

• Align with your values, not someone else’s expectations

Progress doesn’t come from perfection - it comes from repetition.

Discomfort Is a Sign You’re Doing It Right

Change will feel uncomfortable. That’s not a flaw in the process—it’s the process.

If you’re releasing old habits, you may feel uncertainty. If you’re building new ones, you may feel resistance. If you’re growing, you may feel temporarily less confident.

This doesn’t mean you’re regressing. It means you’re in transition.

As Anne Lamott has stated, growth is messy. There is no neat, linear path to becoming who you want to be. There is only commitment, reflection, and the willingness to keep showing up.

A Decision You Make Daily

Change is a decision you make - again and again.

A decision to pause instead of react. To choose intention over autopilot. To invest in habits that support the life you’re building, not the one you’ve outgrown.

You don’t need to overhaul everything overnight. You don’t need to have it all figured out.

You just need to be willing to ask:

What’s no longer working—and what am I ready to choose instead?

Because growth starts when you decide it’s time to change.

A Question to Leave You With

If this speaks to you, take a moment - today - to reflect:

• What habit are you holding onto out of familiarity, not alignment?

• What small habit could you adopt this week that supports the person you’re becoming?

Change doesn’t require a dramatic overhaul—just a conscious first step.

If you’re navigating change right now, I’d love to hear: what’s one habit you’re choosing to release, or one new habit you’re ready to build? Share in the comments, or take this as a quiet commitment to yourself.

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